Avoiding Gossip

Someone on the NFP board posted this, I thought it was good enough to keep around.

Closed lips: 10 ways to avoid gossiping
1. Be positive:
When a person talks about the moral failings of another person, think of something positive to say about that person.
2. Look before you leap: Carefully consider your words before you speak.
3. Avoid idle banter: Ask yourself, “What are we accomplishing by this conversation?” and don’t chime in.
4. Beware of the “News Flash”: Don’t let juicy news eat you up. Just bite your lip and prayerfully challenge yourself to be strong in resisting the temptation to gossip.
5. Question the source: When you hear something that sounds unreasonable, say so.
6. Change the subject: Find a reasonable way to steer the conversation to something edifying.
7. Avoid gossips: If you know a person has a propensity to gossip, avoid that person or suggest he or she thinks about the harm he or she is causing others.
8. Give people the benefit of the doubt: Go out of your way to think the best of others.
9. Turn to prayer: Suggest that those gossiping about someone turn their attention to praying for the other person, rather than just talking about them.
10. The buck stops here: When you hear gossip, make a commitment not to spread it.

FLYlady on Yelling

If you are having a problem with yelling at your babies, then read
this. (I found this on my Flylady email today, maybe it will help us!)
Behavior Modification for yelling and being short with your babies.

1. Keep a journal, each time you yell or say something harsh.
even if it becomes a thick book.

2. Look at what is going on when you yell. Are your under time
pressure? Is the guilt of a messy home making you lash out?

3. Practice using a whisper to talk to your children. It is very hard
to yell in a quiet voice.

4. Put that SMILE on your face. It is really hard to be mad with your
have that big grin.

5. When you catch yourself filling with rage, then take a deep breath
and look at those sweet faces of your babies.

6. Don’t forget, the children need to be trained how to handle
cleaning chores too.

7. Your babies are only little once. They will be grown before you
know it. I know mine is 28 years old.

8. Another thing to do when you are mad is leave the room. Go

9. Say a little prayer and ask God for patience.

10.Remember my 3 Life lessons:

A) What doesn’t matter, Doesn’t matter.
(Who is going to remember the spilled milk 15 years from now)

B) Laugh every day, even if it is at yourself.
(all s, have a funny side, if you will find them and embrace
the moment with laughter)

C) Love like there is no tomorrow.
(This one will get your right where it hurts most. Do you want your
childs last memory of you to be one of yelling and anger.)

It is up to you to change this behavior.

I feel that it has to do with the fact that you still have put time
pressure on yourself.

Make your plan(routines) and work the plan as fast as you can. This
way you will have the time to spend teaching and loving your babies
through their little ups and downs. It is up to you to show them how
to handle their anger. Were you ever taught? Now is the time to
change. When you know better you will do better. No excuses.

Enjoy the gift you are given.

All ’bout Mom

Why God made moms answers given by elementary school age children to the following questions:

1. Why did god make mothers?
She’s the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
Mostly to clean the house.
To help us out of there when we were getting born.

2.How did God make mothers?
He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts.

3. What ingredients are mothers made of?
God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
They had to get their start from men’s bones. Then they mostly used string, I think.

4. Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom?
We’re related.
God knew she likes me a lot more than other people’s moms like me.

5. What kind of little was your Mom?
My Mom has always been my Mom and none of that other stuff.
I don’t know because I wasn’t there, but my guess would be pretty busy.
They say she used to be nice.

6. What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
His last name.
She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer?
Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to and YES to chores?

7. Why did you Mom marry your dad?
My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. Any my Mom eats a lot.
She got too old to do anything else with him.
My grandma says that Mom didn’t have her thinking cap on.

8. Who’s the boss at your house?
Mom doesn’t want to be boss, but she has to because dad’s such a goof ball.
Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff under the bed.
I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad.

9. What’s the difference between moms and dads?
Moms work at work and work at home, dads just go to work to work.
Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
Dads are taller and stronger, but moms have all the real power ’cause that’s who you go to go ask if you want to sleep over at your friend’s. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.

10. What does your Mom do in her spare time?
Mother’s don’t have spare time.
To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

11.What would it take to make your Mom perfect?
On the inside she’s already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of plastic surgery.
Diet. You know, her hair. I’d diet, maybe blue.

12. If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be?
She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I’d get rid of that.
I’d make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it and not me.
I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her back.

WD40 uses

A friend sent this to me. I thought others would find it useful:

>>Protects silver from tarnishing
>>Cleans and lubricates guitar strings
>>Gives floors that ‘just-waxed’ sheen without making it slippery
>>Keeps flies off cows & horses and helps horse manes and tales remain ‘tangle-free’
>>Restores and cleans chalkboards
>>Loosens stubborn zippers
>>Untangles jewelry chains
>>Removes stains from stainless steel sinks
>>Removes dirt and grime from the barbecue grill
>>Keeps ceramic/terra cotta garden pots from oxidizing
>>Keeps glass shower doors free of water spots
>>Camouflages scratches in ceramic and marble floors
>>Keeps scissors working smoothly
>>Lubricates noisy door hinges on vehicles and doors in homes
>>Gives a children’s play gym slide a shine for a super fast slide
>>Lubricates gear shift and mower deck lever for ease of handling on riding mowers
>>Rids rocking chairs and swings of squeaky noises
>>Lubricates tracks in sticking home windows and makes them easier to open
>>Spraying an umbrella stem makes it easier to open and close
>>Restores and cleans padded leather dashboards in vehicles, as well as vinyl bumpers
>>Restores and cleans roof racks on vehicles
>>Lubricates and stops squeaks in electric fans
>>Lubricates wheel sprockets on tricycles, wagons and bicycles for easy handling
>>Lubricates fan belts on washers and dryers and keeps them running smoothly
>>Keeps rust from forming on saws and saw blades, and other tools
>>Removes splattered grease on stove
>>Keeps bathroom mirror from fogging
>>Lubricates prosthetic limbs
>>Keeps pigeons off the balcony (they hate the smell)
>>Removes all traces of duct tape I have even heard of folks spraying it on
>>WD-40 attracts fish. Spray a LITTLE on live bait or lures and you will be catching the big one in no time. Also it’s a lot cheaper than the chemical attractants that are made for just that purpose.
>>If you sprayed WD-40 on the distributor cap, it would displace the
>>moisture and allow the car to start.
>>WD-40, long known for its ability to remove leftover tape mung (sticky
>>label tape).
>>Sprayed liberally on every hinge in the house, it leaves that distinctive clean fresh scent for up to two days! Seriously though, it removes black scuff marks from the kitchen floor!
>>Use WD-40 for those nasty tar and scuff marks on flooring. It doesn’t seem to harm the finish and you won’t have to scrub nearly as hard to get them off.
>>Bug guts will eat away the finish on your car if not removed quickly! Use WD-40!